ServantofGod
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Is there any Biblical basis for/validity in the idea of "forgiving ones self?"
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Well, I think it's a matter of perspective. We certainly don't want to be guilty of selfishness or selfiness as some of the worthies of old termed it. When we believe in forgiveness, the focal point should be what Christ has done, and not what we feel. Off the cuff, I would say an inability to "forgive oneself," just as an inability to forgive a repentant brother or sister, is to have a low and blasphemous view of God's promise to forgive those who repent and believe the Gospel.
With this sweet hope of ultimate acceptance with God, I have always enjoyed much cheerfulness before men; but I have at the same time laboured incessantly to cultivate the deepest humiliation before God. I have never thought that the circumstance of God's having forgiven me was any reason why I should forgive myself; on the contrary, I have always judged it better to loathe myself the more, in proportion as I was assured that God was pacified towards me That thou mayest remember, and be confounded, and never open thy mouth any more because of thy shame, when I am pacified toward thee for all that thou hast done, saith the Lord GOD.
Ezek 16:63 (KJV) . . . There are but two objects that I have ever desired for these forty years to behold; the one is my own vileness; and the other is, the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ: and I have always thought that they should be viewed together; just as Aaron confessed all the sins of all Israel whilst he put them on the head of the scapegoat. The disease did not keep him from applying to the remedy, nor did the remedy keep him from feeling the disease. By this I seek to be, not only humbled and thankful, but humbled in thankfulness, before my God and Saviour continually. (Carus, 518f.)
Are you better than God? If God forgive you, ought not you forgive yourself?Forgiving oneself really makes no sense to me, and never has. Why would this even be necessary?
I think Joshua makes a good point about those of us who are in Christ. If we have humbly repented of that sin then to keep going back to the Lord to ask forgiveness for the same sin is, in one sense, blasphemous. It is really a matter of unbelief at that point. Rather than asking God to forgive us for the same sin, pray that He would forgive us for our little faith and to help us to trust His Word that He forgives the sins of all who are found in Christ Jesus.
We all know it would be blasphemous to not believe the forgiveness of God. I think only in the last 100 years has this idea of forgiving oneself, as a virtue, evolved in the Church. Answer this, do I need to believe in the forgiveness of myself towards myself to be in right standing before God?Originally Posted by joshua
Off the cuff, I would say an inability to "forgive oneself," just as an inability to forgive a repentant brother or sister, is to have a low and blasphemous view of God's promise to forgive those who repent and believe the Gospel.
I understand what the question was. I was backing up the question to the root of where the question comes from. I noted, up front, that the issue is one of guilt and the solution to guilt is *not* to forgive oneself. In fact, I should say that the idea that we forgive ourselves for Sin is blasphemous. Even the Pharisees understood that only God can forgive sin.I think Joshua makes a good point about those of us who are in Christ. If we have humbly repented of that sin then to keep going back to the Lord to ask forgiveness for the same sin is, in one sense, blasphemous. It is really a matter of unbelief at that point. Rather than asking God to forgive us for the same sin, pray that He would forgive us for our little faith and to help us to trust His Word that He forgives the sins of all who are found in Christ Jesus.
The question is of forgiving oneself. Is it blasphemous to not forgive oneself.
I go with Charles Simeon on this one as noted by Piper in his bio sketch and quoted below:
With this sweet hope of ultimate acceptance with God, I have always enjoyed much cheerfulness before men; but I have at the same time laboured incessantly to cultivate the deepest humiliation before God. I have never thought that the circumstance of God's having forgiven me was any reason why I should forgive myself; on the contrary, I have always judged it better to loathe myself the more, in proportion as I was assured that God was pacified towards me That thou mayest remember, and be confounded, and never open thy mouth any more because of thy shame, when I am pacified toward thee for all that thou hast done, saith the Lord GOD.
Ezek 16:63 (KJV) . . . There are but two objects that I have ever desired for these forty years to behold; the one is my own vileness; and the other is, the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ: and I have always thought that they should be viewed together; just as Aaron confessed all the sins of all Israel whilst he put them on the head of the scapegoat. The disease did not keep him from applying to the remedy, nor did the remedy keep him from feeling the disease. By this I seek to be, not only humbled and thankful, but humbled in thankfulness, before my God and Saviour continually. (Carus, 518f.)
If he is saying we should walk around with the feeling of guilt (which is not what appears he is saying), I don't agree with him, because "there is therefore now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." We do not have to live with the guilt.
However, if he is saying that we should always be aware of our total sinfulness, I couldn't agree with him more. Paul the apostle was so aware of his sinfulness that by the time he was near the end of this life, he was calling himself the "chief of sinners." That is healthy view of one's self in my opinion.
If he is saying we should walk around with the feeling of guilt (which is not what appears he is saying), I don't agree with him, because "there is therefore now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." We do not have to live with the guilt.
However, if he is saying that we should always be aware of our total sinfulness, I couldn't agree with him more. Paul the apostle was so aware of his sinfulness that by the time he was near the end of this life, he was calling himself the "chief of sinners." That is healthy view of one's self in my opinion.
That is how I percieve it as well. Today's notion of "self-forgiveness" seems to carry the connotation of "I,m forgiven, so I am not all that bad". I thinks it tends to lead one to view his sin as a mere inconvenience instead of a henious crime as Kennedy noted. I always view myself as a pardoned criminal. I take no time to ponder "self-forgiveness", in light of God's forgiveness I find it all together unnecessary.
If he is saying we should walk around with the feeling of guilt (which is not what appears he is saying), I don't agree with him, because "there is therefore now NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." We do not have to live with the guilt.
However, if he is saying that we should always be aware of our total sinfulness, I couldn't agree with him more. Paul the apostle was so aware of his sinfulness that by the time he was near the end of this life, he was calling himself the "chief of sinners." That is healthy view of one's self in my opinion.
That is how I percieve it as well. Today's notion of "self-forgiveness" seems to carry the connotation of "I,m forgiven, so I am not all that bad". I thinks it tends to lead one to view his sin as a mere inconvenience instead of a henious crime as Kennedy noted. I always view myself as a pardoned criminal. I take no time to ponder "self-forgiveness", in light of God's forgiveness I find it all together unnecessary.
Maybe it is a generational thing. I do not really run across this form of "self-forgiveness", but I gather it is very much out there from listening to others. In that context, yes, "self-forgiveness" is indeed a form of antinomianism or denial of sin. I recall a variation of it from the "I'm OK You're OK" 70s.
I was thinking more along the lines of the hyper-critical person who refuses to "forgive himself" and carries it as a badge of honor. The thinking goes like this, "I have such high standards that I hold myself to. That gives me justification to hold everyone else to those standards too." His refusal to tolerate weakness in himself grants him (in his mind) the moral authority to refuse to forgive others.
But, I agree, the idea of "forgiving yourself" is unbiblical and meaningless. But the idea of acknowledging your sin, expressing repentance, and being grateful at having been forgiven is very important. It keeps us humble, gives us the ability to lift up others, and glorifies God.
I've said, probably too many times, that there is a balance required. We should understand that our sins are grievous and we should repent of our wickedness. But we have no place for condemning ourselves or others because we are not the proper judge nor the accuser. We know there is an accuser, accusing day and night (Rev. 12:10), and we know there is a righteous judge.
While beating our breasts in asking for forgiveness before God, let us not fall for becoming our own accuser and judge, and then compound the error by trying to grant ourselves pardon.
I suppose from now on, we'll just have to use a million qualifications to be clearer, Vic.While beating our breasts in asking for forgiveness before God, let us not fall for becoming our own accuser and judge, and then compound the error by trying to grant ourselves pardon.
I suppose from now on, we'll just have to use a million qualifications to be clearer, Vic.While beating our breasts in asking for forgiveness before God, let us not fall for becoming our own accuser and judge, and then compound the error by trying to grant ourselves pardon.