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What constitutes a biblical marriage?
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What constitutes a biblical marriage?
Unbelievers may have a valid marriage.
Also, in some cultures there is no official registry and tribal folks pair off and call themselves husband and wife. This is less formal, but is recognized by the tribes as marriage and so I would not say that these are not marriages.
Would you agree though in America where in order to be recognized as married one must obtain a legal certificate, that unless one follows that pattern out of obedience to Romans 13 it would not be a recognized marriage in Gods eyes biblically speaking?
Unbelievers may have a valid marriage.
Also, in some cultures there is no official registry and tribal folks pair off and call themselves husband and wife. This is less formal, but is recognized by the tribes as marriage and so I would not say that these are not marriages.
Agreed that ultimately it seems like as long as people submit to the cultural norms and those norms don't include a legal document then God would see it as a valid marriage so long as it is not sin. Would you agree though in America where in order to be recognized as married one must obtain a legal certificate, that unless one follows that pattern out of obedience to Romans 13 it would not be a recognized marriage in Gods eyes biblically speaking?
Would you agree though in America where in order to be recognized as married one must obtain a legal certificate, that unless one follows that pattern out of obedience to Romans 13 it would not be a recognized marriage in Gods eyes biblically speaking?
Just a clarification. Not all states require a certificate. Montana, at least, recognizes common law marriage.
In that state, all you need to become married is (1) be competent (of legal age, basically), (2) mutual consent and agreement (3) cohabitation and public repute. In other words, you don't just live together, but you also hold yourselves out as married.
And of course, once married in Montana, you are married anywhere.
I understand that your question ties the legitimacy of a marriage to obeying a state's laws. But I'm having trouble understanding the significance of it being valid in "God's eyes." Is your question directed to the idea that it would be sin for couples cohabit even if they are committed to each other but have not had the marriage recognized? If so, yes, I think it would be sin. At a bare minimum the elements listed by Ed Walsh (and essentially included in the Montana common law elements) are needed: consent, promise, holding out to the public, cohabitation (including consummation). That's been marriage from the beginning. You see it clearly in Isaac's marriage and some variation of that pattern has always been recognized.
VOWS to each other and to God form a one flesh marriage. Forget exception clause found only in Matthew for an excuse to divorce. Pertained only to Jews during(betrothal) engagement. Marriage is for life. No such thing in scripture as "remarriage." Those standing around Jesus understood what He was saying..."two shall become one. NEVER to be twain again." Paul echoed the same(He said it was a command directly from Jesus). " If you separate(not divorce)remain single until reconciled." State or certificate can't "break" vows or union. ONLY death. Pharisees and others understood what He was saying. They exclaimed, "Why get married"?
5. Adultery or fornication committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to
dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce: and, after the divorce,to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.
6. Although the corruption of man be such as is apt to study arguments unduly to put asunder those whom God hath joined together in marriage: yet, nothing but adultery, or such willful desertion as can no way be remedied by the church, or civil magistrate, is cause sufficient of dissolving the bond of marriage:n wherein, a public and orderly course of proceeding is to be observed; and the persons concerned in it not left to their own wills, and discretion, in their own case.
Joshua, it seems to me that a secret marriage is not possible
Calvinists...what say YOU? Does the Bible contradict itself, or have we had it all wrong?
VOWS to each other and to God form a one flesh marriage. Forget exception clause found only in Matthew for an excuse to divorce. Pertained only to Jews during(betrothal) engagement. Marriage is for life. No such thing in scripture as "remarriage." Those standing around Jesus understood what He was saying..."two shall become one. NEVER to be twain again." Paul echoed the same(He said it was a command directly from Jesus). " If you separate(not divorce)remain single until reconciled." State or certificate can't "break" vows or union. ONLY death. Pharisees and others understood what He was saying. They exclaimed, "Why get married"?VOWS to each other and to God form a one flesh marriage. Forget exception clause found only in Matthew for an excuse to divorce. Pertained only to Jews during(betrothal) engagement. Marriage is for life. No such thing in scripture as "remarriage." Those standing around Jesus understood what He was saying..."two shall become one. NEVER to be twain again." Paul echoed the same(He said it was a command directly from Jesus). " If you separate(not divorce)remain single until reconciled." State or certificate can't "break" vows or union. ONLY death. Pharisees and others understood what He was saying. They exclaimed, "Why get married"? "Marry" someone else when your original one flesh mate is still alive...Jesus calls you an adulterer. Why so little is written about or preached from the pulpit on this is beyond my comprehension! If adulterers don't repent before their last breath, do they lose their salvation? Scripture says they won't make heaven. Calvinists...what say YOU? Does the Bible contradict itself, or have we had it all wrong? This is why I am at a loss finding any pastor and church that can answer this. D. James Kennedy, my late beloved pastor, said the covenant and vows are broken when the guilty party has sex with his new mate. The so-called innocent party is free to "remarry." This is in direct contradiction to scripture and early church teaching. Vows are for "'til death do us part." The guilty party must repent, but the ONLY way to "repent" is to remain single or return to your first original one flesh mate. Now you know why I get so frustrated with the Body. This should be answered ONCE and for all...honestly and with great prayer and scholarship. Nothing more important in this world than family! Adult children even suffer from their parents' divorce. And it's rampant in the Church.
Joshua, it seems to me that a secret marriage is not possible
Just to clarify, you were responding to Chuck, not Joshua.
And to clarify something else, I don't interpret Joshua to be advocating secret marriages. I am assuming that he is wondering how to respond to someone who does.
Sorry, not scriptural, and contradicts both Jesus and Paul. Go with the Confession and remain in good standing with the Puritan Board, or go with God and His Holy Word. Choose THIS day whom thou shalt serve. http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php
VOWS to each other and to God form a one flesh marriage. Forget exception clause found only in Matthew for an excuse to divorce. Pertained only to Jews during(betrothal) engagement. Marriage is for life. No such thing in scripture as "remarriage."