I know what you mean. There are pockets of "holdouts" in the CRC, including one particular classis in Minnesota and North Dakota which holds to male-only leadership. Every year at synod they present an overture, calling on the church to recant and change their ways. The fact is that in my particular classis, womens ordination and eldership is allowed and some serve in prominent roles. If I was an elder, and I went to a classis meeting, and women were there presenting and discussing, I feel like my mind would always be saying something like "yes but why are you even here?" It just isn't right. But anyways, thanks for the reply. I have to ask though, how on earth you know about my particular congregation? (you can PM me). We literally are a tiny church in the middle of nowhere. Another note: One thing that I am not sure anyone here has answered, is what my obligation is to these people. This is where I am unsure. For example, I know that to truly obey God I must love my neighbours and do what is best for them; considering them above myself. If I sense in my conscience a spiritual gift of discernment, of Bible teaching, etc. and I see people in the congregation that really need that, how can I be fulfilling the "law of love", if I do not serve them in that capacity and "take off" to the nearest more conservative church that by all accounts doesn't need what I can give as much as the people in Blyth do? Love does no harm to his neighbour. Please understand, I am not trying to be liberal or difficult, but this is really bothering me and I am just seeking God's will.