Exactly. And sadly this is the norm and it gives the more um aggressive ladies an excuse to say "we need to be deacons/elders" then the cycle continues ever downward.I find it very humbling that my wife submits to me and feel the burden of that responsibility keenly. It is not to be taken lightly.
But that is likewise culture (in this case local), not biblical manhood. It is a perversion. Christlike manhood is realizing that we are servant leaders but with authority granted us by God, it is incredibly empowering to realize that my position in our family is God-given and God-authorized. It gives great power and authority but the burden of responsibility is likewise enormous.I would almost say that we err no the side of encouraging men to be too macho and running roughshod over everyone.
Our culture is feminizing the men to where many 25 year old 'men' are nothing but giant, emasculated children and the women have been taught to be everything a woman should not be. Thankfully, we serve a sovereign God.