Croghanite
Puritan Board Sophomore
Someone recently posted a thread asking a similar question that I need help with.
My 4.5 year old will not in anyway submit to being spanked. When I announce he is to be spanked, he will not come to me, he wiggles and tries to shake his way out of my grasp, he tries to block the spank and basically tries anything he can to stop the discipline.
I just got through a session with him and I tried a different tactic that did not work. He hurt his sister physically on purpose. I ask him if he knew it was wrong and he said yes. I asked him what happens when you do something wrong like hurting someone on purpose and he said get a spank. I told him his punishment will be 8 strikes. The whole time hes screaming no and pleading with me. So I tell him it will be 8 strikes and if you dont come here and receive them than I will add more. He continues disobeying so I say 9 then. Same thing continues to happen until I come to 11 and I can see this will never end. I end up having to force him over my knee.
All of this is done in a calm voice, in a bedroom and I fully explain every angle of his choices. I think it comes down to the way a person thinks. My other son when given his choices has always submitted. The 4.5 year old will kick and scratch the entire time and he knows he will get more spanks if he kicks and scratches. I think its the way they handle fear. He is so scared he cant think right.
Ant thoughts on what I should do specifically when I must spank him? Should I hold him down? Should I try something else?
[Edited on 8-25-2006 by LAYMAN JOE]
My 4.5 year old will not in anyway submit to being spanked. When I announce he is to be spanked, he will not come to me, he wiggles and tries to shake his way out of my grasp, he tries to block the spank and basically tries anything he can to stop the discipline.
I just got through a session with him and I tried a different tactic that did not work. He hurt his sister physically on purpose. I ask him if he knew it was wrong and he said yes. I asked him what happens when you do something wrong like hurting someone on purpose and he said get a spank. I told him his punishment will be 8 strikes. The whole time hes screaming no and pleading with me. So I tell him it will be 8 strikes and if you dont come here and receive them than I will add more. He continues disobeying so I say 9 then. Same thing continues to happen until I come to 11 and I can see this will never end. I end up having to force him over my knee.
All of this is done in a calm voice, in a bedroom and I fully explain every angle of his choices. I think it comes down to the way a person thinks. My other son when given his choices has always submitted. The 4.5 year old will kick and scratch the entire time and he knows he will get more spanks if he kicks and scratches. I think its the way they handle fear. He is so scared he cant think right.
Ant thoughts on what I should do specifically when I must spank him? Should I hold him down? Should I try something else?
[Edited on 8-25-2006 by LAYMAN JOE]