C4MERON
Puritan Board Freshman
Dear brothers and sisters, I have posted before about relational difficulties with my 11yo son, but was wondering if you may lend me your ear once again. I feel at a loss as to what to do.
To give some preliminary background, my eldest son is 11 and has 3 younger brothers.
Myself and my wife have always generally had relational troubles with him. He is very rebellious in his attitude, cheeky and argumentative, disobedient (at least at home with us). He has made family life unbearable and is a constant source of negativity amongst the rest of the family.
There is so often a turbulent atmosphere at his hand. Anyway, to cut an extremely long story a little shorter; he enjoys a bit of video gaming and was expecting a new xbox for Christmas. I had bought him one and he found out I had. But when things came to a head and he had been so horrible to myself and my wife, I ended up taking it back to the shop.
He didn’t initially believe me but when he found out I had, there was much lamenting and told me he hated me. He shows much disdain for Christianity recently and has no interest in church ( even though I make him go) and he hates it when I make him and his brothers sit down for ‘bible time’.
I dont want him to waste his life in video games. I want him to know and love Christ and live for him. My question is.. should I re-purchase this games console and know that he’ll be happy or do I stick to my convictions? He says why cant I be a normal dad and let him have it? ( desperate as he is to play older age-rated shooter games just like his ‘friends’). He has no desire to have a relationship with myself or his mum I don’t know what to do for the best. Thank you for your advice dear friends.
To give some preliminary background, my eldest son is 11 and has 3 younger brothers.
Myself and my wife have always generally had relational troubles with him. He is very rebellious in his attitude, cheeky and argumentative, disobedient (at least at home with us). He has made family life unbearable and is a constant source of negativity amongst the rest of the family.
There is so often a turbulent atmosphere at his hand. Anyway, to cut an extremely long story a little shorter; he enjoys a bit of video gaming and was expecting a new xbox for Christmas. I had bought him one and he found out I had. But when things came to a head and he had been so horrible to myself and my wife, I ended up taking it back to the shop.
He didn’t initially believe me but when he found out I had, there was much lamenting and told me he hated me. He shows much disdain for Christianity recently and has no interest in church ( even though I make him go) and he hates it when I make him and his brothers sit down for ‘bible time’.
I dont want him to waste his life in video games. I want him to know and love Christ and live for him. My question is.. should I re-purchase this games console and know that he’ll be happy or do I stick to my convictions? He says why cant I be a normal dad and let him have it? ( desperate as he is to play older age-rated shooter games just like his ‘friends’). He has no desire to have a relationship with myself or his mum I don’t know what to do for the best. Thank you for your advice dear friends.