What resources do you recommend for becoming a better shepherd? e.g., When my wife is discouraged about something and needs to be led toward Christ? Or when a child is in the midst of an angry tirade and needs to be directed toward repentance? Surely, this must start with my own personal holiness and spiritual growth, but that doesn't directly help one know how to unpack those kinds of situations. This wasn't modeled for me in childhood, and though I've grown slowly in this area as an adult, I'm feeling really burdened by a need to grow in this area for my family's well-being.