Yesterday I was thinking about what a lot of Christians, including some of the Reformed, say about finding a wife. "God will bring her into your life when His timing is right." Or "Just focus on God and He'll bring your wife when He chooses." My difficulty at the moment is that I don't see that pattern in Scripture. Particularly in the Old Testament I see several accounts of a search for a wife. The people at that time didn't seem as fatalistic in terms of finding a wife. Would you agree with my conclusion thus far, or am I really off base? Secondly, if a "search" is a biblical precedent (and I'm not talking about rallying the troops and going door to door to find a biblical woman but rather being active in finding an equally yolked woman in just day to day experience), how far would this extend? I mean, if a good wife is a crown to her husband, it seems like she would be worth deliberately seeking. In asking, "how far would this extend," I am thus asking if moving to another state, even for a short time, is a proper endeavor if a young man knows of a godly woman that is very like-minded and a very potential match. The move would be somewhat of a quest for this wonderful crown. Is that not fatalistic enough?