PointyHaired Calvinist
Puritan Board Junior
Bit of a rant but I hope this is understandable. I’d like to hear a critique that actually gives a Biblical correction and doesn’t just attack without giving an alternative. In my experience many critiques are not just of “purity culture” but of purity itself, and distill down to minimizing fornication and saying “if you’ve got it flaunt it.” (An exaggeration perhaps, maybe I’m reading through the lines but have little else to go on.)
Can we not be “legalistic” but also believe it is important to save yourself for marriage? Do I have to reject the courtship my wife and I did which I’m honestly quite grateful for and regret the standards we kept? Am I a legalistic because I want the same for my own kids? (Note I know many Christians have dated and turned out fine. Not judging them but I just wouldn’t have done things any other way meself.)
Can we not be “legalistic” but also believe it is important to save yourself for marriage? Do I have to reject the courtship my wife and I did which I’m honestly quite grateful for and regret the standards we kept? Am I a legalistic because I want the same for my own kids? (Note I know many Christians have dated and turned out fine. Not judging them but I just wouldn’t have done things any other way meself.)