Caroline
Puritan Board Sophomore
My daughter is away at Deerwander (the OPC youth camp) this week, and her main concern about going was that people might (with every good intention) press her to overextend herself physically. I have no reason to believe that they actually have done this, and I sent a letter with her advising the counselors to let my daughter rest as needed and not to encourage her to do things that require good balance. My daughter has Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, and while she looks normal, she actually has serious problem with her joints and impaired balance.
My daughters worries and conversations with her about her difficulties made me think about something:
Finding summer activities for my daughters (both have EDS) is even more challenging than for my son who is autistic. There are summer programs for seriously disabled children, and there are programs for normal children. What there is not are programs that are for children who have EDS, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis (which a friend's teenage daughter was recently diagnosed with), etc. I know of three disabled children just in my small circle of friends who have difficulty participating in AWANA or other youth activities because they end up sitting on the sidelines watching the other children play games and have fun. Or leaders who mean well but don't understand will keep yelling at them to 'get going' or 'try harder', etc. They usually end up dropping out of activities and then they are kind of lonely. (My daughter has this difficulty). I'm hoping that Deerwander will work out well for my daughter, but to be honest, I don't have high hopes about it. I truly believe that the pastors overseeing it are good-hearted men who will do their best with my daughter (I know several of them personally), but when you are running a camp with 60+ kids, you have to plan activities that are good for the majority, not the special few.
I wonder (and this is very early in the 'just wondering' stage) whether it might be helpful to organize something for kids who are not so disabled that they belong in special ed, but too disabled to be 'normal.' It might be helpful even for them to have advice on understanding chronic pain in terms of Christian faith, etc. But I wonder how common the problem is and whether some special event (or even online blog or whatever) might be helpful.
Thoughts?
My daughters worries and conversations with her about her difficulties made me think about something:
Finding summer activities for my daughters (both have EDS) is even more challenging than for my son who is autistic. There are summer programs for seriously disabled children, and there are programs for normal children. What there is not are programs that are for children who have EDS, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis (which a friend's teenage daughter was recently diagnosed with), etc. I know of three disabled children just in my small circle of friends who have difficulty participating in AWANA or other youth activities because they end up sitting on the sidelines watching the other children play games and have fun. Or leaders who mean well but don't understand will keep yelling at them to 'get going' or 'try harder', etc. They usually end up dropping out of activities and then they are kind of lonely. (My daughter has this difficulty). I'm hoping that Deerwander will work out well for my daughter, but to be honest, I don't have high hopes about it. I truly believe that the pastors overseeing it are good-hearted men who will do their best with my daughter (I know several of them personally), but when you are running a camp with 60+ kids, you have to plan activities that are good for the majority, not the special few.
I wonder (and this is very early in the 'just wondering' stage) whether it might be helpful to organize something for kids who are not so disabled that they belong in special ed, but too disabled to be 'normal.' It might be helpful even for them to have advice on understanding chronic pain in terms of Christian faith, etc. But I wonder how common the problem is and whether some special event (or even online blog or whatever) might be helpful.
Thoughts?