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Hey Everyone!
There has been something heavily on my mind recently that I thought it might be good to get out in writing, and discuss. It was rekindled by the recent controversy over the national debt, and the thread "Incentive to marry." It was difficult to know whether to post this in the "family" section, or in a section dealing with economics, so, I guess the thread can be moved around if it is not appropriate here.
We all know that the economy stinks right now, and that it will only get worse before it gets better. I have been wondering what this might do to singles and marriage. For example, someone graduates with a masters or Phd, and has $100,000.00 worth of debt. They are going to be paying around $1,000.00 a month on loans. However, they are having difficulty finding work, and, simply because of the fact that they cannot find work, they end up defaulting on their loans. Bankruptcy is no way out because student loans cannot be discharged due to bankruptcy.
However, many people in such a situation are in their late twenties, and would like to be married. The problem is that they cannot marry, because they could never afford to take care of a spouse and [possibly] children. This would especially affect the men, as most of the jobs that have been lost in this economic mess are jobs that are dominated by men.
This creates a devastating problem. Even though men and women are not going to be able to marry, the problem is that God created romantic love between a man and a woman. It is normal and very good according to the book of Genesis. However, what will happen when men and women cannot express their feelings for one another, simply because of the fact that they cannot afford it? Consider, for example, the fact that, if you are in the kind of economic problems described above, you will not even be able to afford to ask someone out on a date. You will most likely still be living with your parents, which is even more unattractive. Keep in mind, at this point we are not even talking about marriage; we are talking about simply getting a relationship off the ground!
However, even marriage becomes a problem. Let us say that such a person *does* end up finding a job, and let us say that they make around $30,000.00 a year. Now, they will only make $18,000.00 a year, because they have to pay off loans. How will they be able to get married and support a spouse and [possibly] children on that salary?
The point is that the high cost of education, and the bad economy could create a deadly combination that may end up making marriage economically impossible. However, that would have devastating consequences, as men and women were made to be attracted to one another. What happens when a couple is interested in one another, and they know that they could never afford to marry? You can say that you should try to keep them apart so that they are not tempted, but the problem is that this attraction is normal and natural, and fighting it is fighting against something that is normal and natural. Eventually, this could very dangerously lead to fornication, or worse, children who are born from fornication, and no one who can afford to take care of them.
The only other solution I have heard is that families might start living two or three generations together. The problem with this is simply age. Eventually, the older members of the family are not going to be able to work simply because their bodies are not what they were when they were younger. If this happens, the income that those people produce will not be there.
It is a problem that is all too real, as I have seen it affect many people in my circles, and it would be interesting to hear some thoughts on the matter.
God Bless,
Adam
There has been something heavily on my mind recently that I thought it might be good to get out in writing, and discuss. It was rekindled by the recent controversy over the national debt, and the thread "Incentive to marry." It was difficult to know whether to post this in the "family" section, or in a section dealing with economics, so, I guess the thread can be moved around if it is not appropriate here.
We all know that the economy stinks right now, and that it will only get worse before it gets better. I have been wondering what this might do to singles and marriage. For example, someone graduates with a masters or Phd, and has $100,000.00 worth of debt. They are going to be paying around $1,000.00 a month on loans. However, they are having difficulty finding work, and, simply because of the fact that they cannot find work, they end up defaulting on their loans. Bankruptcy is no way out because student loans cannot be discharged due to bankruptcy.
However, many people in such a situation are in their late twenties, and would like to be married. The problem is that they cannot marry, because they could never afford to take care of a spouse and [possibly] children. This would especially affect the men, as most of the jobs that have been lost in this economic mess are jobs that are dominated by men.
This creates a devastating problem. Even though men and women are not going to be able to marry, the problem is that God created romantic love between a man and a woman. It is normal and very good according to the book of Genesis. However, what will happen when men and women cannot express their feelings for one another, simply because of the fact that they cannot afford it? Consider, for example, the fact that, if you are in the kind of economic problems described above, you will not even be able to afford to ask someone out on a date. You will most likely still be living with your parents, which is even more unattractive. Keep in mind, at this point we are not even talking about marriage; we are talking about simply getting a relationship off the ground!
However, even marriage becomes a problem. Let us say that such a person *does* end up finding a job, and let us say that they make around $30,000.00 a year. Now, they will only make $18,000.00 a year, because they have to pay off loans. How will they be able to get married and support a spouse and [possibly] children on that salary?
The point is that the high cost of education, and the bad economy could create a deadly combination that may end up making marriage economically impossible. However, that would have devastating consequences, as men and women were made to be attracted to one another. What happens when a couple is interested in one another, and they know that they could never afford to marry? You can say that you should try to keep them apart so that they are not tempted, but the problem is that this attraction is normal and natural, and fighting it is fighting against something that is normal and natural. Eventually, this could very dangerously lead to fornication, or worse, children who are born from fornication, and no one who can afford to take care of them.
The only other solution I have heard is that families might start living two or three generations together. The problem with this is simply age. Eventually, the older members of the family are not going to be able to work simply because their bodies are not what they were when they were younger. If this happens, the income that those people produce will not be there.
It is a problem that is all too real, as I have seen it affect many people in my circles, and it would be interesting to hear some thoughts on the matter.
God Bless,
Adam