I am interested in receiving comments from both wives and husbands regarding the husband's leadership on certain viewpoints that, although they may be confessional/Biblical, are not the majority, even within reformed circles. Some examples using some of my distinctives: 1. Exclusive psalmody: Man (EP) courts woman who is not; 2. Headcoverings: Man (believes in coverings) courts woman who has not heard of this practice; 3. Christmas/Easter: Man (doesn't celebrate) courts woman who does. In all of these issues, there is a certain sensitivity. How does the man lead in these positions while not bombarding the woman with "strange" theological views, but while still leading with integrity according to his beliefs? The idea is to not "scare off" the woman, but to still be clear about the positions that are taken. And to be clear how the future/potential family will be led. -----Added 4/10/2009 at 11:47:36 EST----- I understand that before marriage (during courtship), the man is not in a true leadership position. He is just trying to communicate how he will lead if/when marriage happens.