Puritan Board Freshman
Hello, my name is Anthony. I am a young Christian (22) in search of a church home. So here's my story. I was raised in churches my whole life. Mostly Reformed Baptist, and as I got older, some PCA churches. Around the age of 16 my parents were taking my sister and I to an OPC church in Hamden,CT for a while, and were in the process of becoming members, when they ended up getting a divorce, and after that they both stopped going to church. Since they both stopped going and I had not yet gotten a car of my own I also didn't go to church. So I ended up hanging out with friends, and living a very worldly lifestyle, in search of some feeling of comfort during my parents divorce. My grandfather began picking me up every Sunday, but I was never really interested in going to church on my own. I was only going because I had to. During this time my mother was depressed, she'd stay up every night crying, and I was always afraid that she was going to end up hurting herself. I would stay up every night listening to her cry, just making sure she didn't do anything crazy. Normally, after school I'd stay late, and hangout with the guys, and talk to girls, and just spend time away from home to get away from the depression that was in my home. Except for one day. This one day I just didn't feel like hanging out, I wanted to go home instead. When I got home around 3 I noticed that my mom's car was in the driveway, which was strange because she normally came home around 5 o'clock. So I walked in the house, and called her name. No response. I noticed her room light was on and called her name again. No response. So I slowly walked into her room, and saw her lying there on the floor. All of her prescription pill bottles were open and empty, and there were knives scattered on the ground. I ran and grabbed my phone in fear, and dialed 911. At the hospital they had to pump out her stomach and she had damaged her kidney. The doctor told me that if I had gotten home even 1/2 an hour later, that my mother would be dead. I was stunned. What if I had stayed after school to hangout like I normally did? And in this moment my eyes were opened. I knew that this was no coincidence. I knew that God had saved my mother. I was overwhelmed with tears, and cried out to God. His Grace is amazing. Ever since this day I have been living for Christ. My Grandfather continued taking me to church with him, but this time I was going because I really wanted to go. I was excited for church. I was excited to worship God. My Grandfather was kind of a serial church hopper, he'd find a church, really like it, and then find something wrong with it and leave to another church. To this day he is still hopping around. So one day, when I was 18 and I got my first car, I told him that I was going to stop going to church with him, and that I was going to find my own church. I was really young and immature, and had no idea what reformed theology was. So my first church was a small church in my hometown, called Glastonbury Baptist Church. It was an Independent Fundamental Bible Believing Church. I am very thankful for my time there, I grew so much. In my fire for Christ I couldn't get enough bible, and I ended up finding John MacArthur's sermons, and Ligonier Ministries, and a movie called "Amazing Grace: History and Theology of Calvinism" . I started to learn about the reformation, and reformed theology. This completely blew my mind! I began picking up puritan writings, and books by reformed theologians. So I decided to share my new found knowledge at the Baptist church, but they did not agree with me on my new Calvinistic theology. It started to get to a point where someone was always trying to debate me, or convince me that I was wrong, on things such as Unconditional Election, and Limited Atonement. It started to affect my fellowship with people there, and so now I have decided to look for a new home in a Reformed Church in Connecticut. I have also had a growing desire to get into pastoral ministry, and so I have joined this site in hope that someone will give me some advice in my search.