LadyFlynt
Puritan Board Doctor
Okay, slight vent warning.
For those that don't know I haven't spoken with my momma for 2yrs this May...or rather her dear (sarcastic) hubby cut me off from the family and no one (except dear step-grandma) has spoken to me. The situation is bad enough that we never even told them that we moved or that I am expecting again (they didn't know last time till I was more than 6months along). The issues go all the way back to my childhood and really extend into their childhoods if truth be told.
They quit speaking to us because we refused to let them watch the children (for protective reasons). My grandmother has finally quit questioning it and making excuses for them. The issue is now someone else whom I have no clue as to how to respond to.
There is a lady with MS that goes to momma's church that managed to get my old addy from my step-dad (the letters get forwarded as does grandma's mail). I have explained to her in letter form and over the phone that I HAVE forgiven them, but I must first obey my husband, and second protect my children. Also that I was NOT the one to break contact and they could have contacted me at anytime and chose not to do so.
She still keeps sending me things asking if I've "truely forgiven them"...or do I know what "true christian forgiveness is", etc. I just want to scream! She has no clue how painful the past is to me or how happy I have been since they cut me off. It has been so peaceful the past two years.
I just don't know how to respond to this woman or if she'll ever get it. Or should I even respond to her and continue to seem like the "bitter child" to her? She thinks I'm bitter. Maybe I am, but I also saw the sovereignty of God in the circumstances I was in...however I have responsibilities towards my own family now...not them.
thanks.
For those that don't know I haven't spoken with my momma for 2yrs this May...or rather her dear (sarcastic) hubby cut me off from the family and no one (except dear step-grandma) has spoken to me. The situation is bad enough that we never even told them that we moved or that I am expecting again (they didn't know last time till I was more than 6months along). The issues go all the way back to my childhood and really extend into their childhoods if truth be told.
They quit speaking to us because we refused to let them watch the children (for protective reasons). My grandmother has finally quit questioning it and making excuses for them. The issue is now someone else whom I have no clue as to how to respond to.
There is a lady with MS that goes to momma's church that managed to get my old addy from my step-dad (the letters get forwarded as does grandma's mail). I have explained to her in letter form and over the phone that I HAVE forgiven them, but I must first obey my husband, and second protect my children. Also that I was NOT the one to break contact and they could have contacted me at anytime and chose not to do so.
She still keeps sending me things asking if I've "truely forgiven them"...or do I know what "true christian forgiveness is", etc. I just want to scream! She has no clue how painful the past is to me or how happy I have been since they cut me off. It has been so peaceful the past two years.
I just don't know how to respond to this woman or if she'll ever get it. Or should I even respond to her and continue to seem like the "bitter child" to her? She thinks I'm bitter. Maybe I am, but I also saw the sovereignty of God in the circumstances I was in...however I have responsibilities towards my own family now...not them.
thanks.