ValleyofVision
Puritan Board Freshman
It is, of course, not mutually exclusive to discipline properly and to be attentive to mitigating factors such as medical conditions that may affect behavior.
I do not think, however, that Ben was wrong in picking up on a tone in the OP. Dear brother Josh, apart from what may ail your child currently (if anything other than willfulness and a testing of you), what your actual words in the OP evinced were a sort of desperation that bespoke defeat: you are allowing your child to get the best of you.
And even if such may happen to mother (and I admire Lily's resolve here!), here's where father needs to strengthen mother and demonstrate his unshakable resolve that this little one will obey and that you, as Ben said, are indeed in charge. At no moment is the child in charge and anything that communicates such does no one in the house any favors: other children, that child itself , and certainly not mother.
Yes, these early years are times of challenge and blessing. Stay strong, loving, and faithful...it will get better. And in that respect, I have to differ with Brother Ken. I know what he means when he says that you could wish them to be two again--but not really. The best thing is fully to enjoy them at every age they are, with all of its attendant encouragements and difficulties.
I don't wish to go back to tomorrow, nor do I wish my children to. I adored their childhood, but I love even more their manhood and womanhood. Your child needs your strength, resolve, and determination, all as part of your love, care, and nurturing. Even if everyone else in the family seems to lack it,, see your role as father as the one who, in Christ, can provide this for the family even if you are the only one doing it at the time.
May the Lord strengthen you in every way that you may encourage and strengthen your wife, providing good and faithful leadership for her and, with her, your children.
Peace,
Alan
Thank you very much Sir.