JoannaV
Puritan Board Sophomore
Maybe if you could share some particular reasons your wife is leaning towards formula we could help brainstorm some ways to help her.
*Personally* I find the idea of using formula to be very inconvenient, time-consuming, and labor-intensive, so even when I had some very painful problems in the first few months of breastfeeding I still never considered formula. But for others the opposite will seem true, for example the father can be much more involved in making/feeding the formula so it is less labor & time consuming for the mother. This is especially true when combined with tiredness. Once I figured out how to nurse the baby lying down that was the best way to maximise sleep. But if she has to get up to feed baby then it may seem easier to do something that allows the father to share in night-feedings.
Does she have a breast pump or not?
It's interesting that if you survey a large group of women asking which was most important to them, the physical benefits of breastfeeding or the emotional, you will find half say one and half the other. So for some women the biggest motivation in feeding decisions will be the physical benefits, whereas for others it will be the emotional benefits. So for some women being convinced of the physical benefits of breastfeeding will be a major motivation in persevering at it, whereas for others that would not do quite so much to convince them. If your wife is one to whom the emotional benefits is more important that may be something she has to experience more than research about. The treatment center you mentioned does not sound like it would foster that kind of experience. Your wife may be feeling that she connects better to the baby when she is well-rested, and has not found breast-feeding to be a time of particular bonding.
It's hard when the surrounding culture is not supportive, even when the husband is supportive If most of the women she comes in contact with do not breast-feed, or if she has not seen it a lot, it will be hard for her to view it as natural or to be relaxed about it.
*Personally* I find the idea of using formula to be very inconvenient, time-consuming, and labor-intensive, so even when I had some very painful problems in the first few months of breastfeeding I still never considered formula. But for others the opposite will seem true, for example the father can be much more involved in making/feeding the formula so it is less labor & time consuming for the mother. This is especially true when combined with tiredness. Once I figured out how to nurse the baby lying down that was the best way to maximise sleep. But if she has to get up to feed baby then it may seem easier to do something that allows the father to share in night-feedings.
Does she have a breast pump or not?
It's interesting that if you survey a large group of women asking which was most important to them, the physical benefits of breastfeeding or the emotional, you will find half say one and half the other. So for some women the biggest motivation in feeding decisions will be the physical benefits, whereas for others it will be the emotional benefits. So for some women being convinced of the physical benefits of breastfeeding will be a major motivation in persevering at it, whereas for others that would not do quite so much to convince them. If your wife is one to whom the emotional benefits is more important that may be something she has to experience more than research about. The treatment center you mentioned does not sound like it would foster that kind of experience. Your wife may be feeling that she connects better to the baby when she is well-rested, and has not found breast-feeding to be a time of particular bonding.
It's hard when the surrounding culture is not supportive, even when the husband is supportive If most of the women she comes in contact with do not breast-feed, or if she has not seen it a lot, it will be hard for her to view it as natural or to be relaxed about it.