If a missionary needs to prove himself in ministry before doing missionary work, should a US pastor also need to do the same? Yes or No, and why? How would this "proving" look different for each?
I'm suggesting that missionaries need to be 'proven' first because of the general lack of oversight in the field. If my pastor starts staying home playing solitaire on his computer instead of working (he doesn't, so don't anyone start writing letters), odds are that the people paying his salary would know very quickly. If one of our missionaries in Haiti gets a bit lazy, I don't know how we would ever find out.
Question ... and I don't mean to be paranoid here, but I feel that it has to be said ... how do you know that the missionaries work hard and lead stellar moral lives? Because they say they do?
Let me add here that I know that there are some who do work hard and lead good moral lives. I'm NOT saying that EVERY missionary is bad. And I also know that many who leave the field have done some good while they were there. Certainly, the turnover rate even for married missionaries is high, often because of marital stress or concerns about the welfare of the children, and that's ok that people leave when it is not a good thing for their family anymore. People can only do so much and they have to take their own family into consideration.
What I say comes of experience. I can't speak for everyone or every situation. But my husband was an MK in Mexico, and myself in South Korea/China/Mongolia. It's ok if you think I'm wrong, and perhaps I am a bit of a cynic. But sometimes you see the same problems over and over and over ... My husband and I have both known some missionaries who never even learned the local language and never did any discernable ministry, as far as we could tell. But this is not to discount the hardships either. My sister went to China as a missionary (and, as an MK herself, she was more prepared than most). She had been supposed to work at a school. When she arrived, her passport was confiscated (for 'safekeeping') and she was locked onto the school compound alone every night and weekend (again for 'safekeeping'). She became ill and ended up in the hospital where she was given a surgical procedure with no anesthesia. She returned to the USA after nine months.
The point of all my rambling is simply that it is a complex situation. There's a tendency to say, "We should send more missionaries! Start pushing seminary grads overseas!" But it's just more complicated than that. It's an admirable job, but it's not for everyone, and if there's not enough accountibility (which there usually is not), then you are asking for trouble. And it's a lot to ask of someone--psychologically and practically, it can be very challenging.
However, the US culture is generally much looser in sexual standards and so infidelity might be more common in the US compared with rates of use for overseas prostitutes, especially with fear of AIDS curbing the ardor of potential customers.
I'm sorry, but perhaps Muslim countries aside (I'm not sure, as I am not as familiar with them), this is not true. The USA is on the prudish side. Prostitution, etc, are HUGE problems in most Asian countries. I don't mean to be crude, but the town that I lived in South Korea had big life-size **** billboards, and there were advertisements featuring topless women on the subway.
In many cultures, there is a double standard ... 'good' women are generally expected to be 'pure', but men are expected to roam.
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