I know we've had to deal with this from time to time. Recently this has come up personally for me on another board.

Could we put the advice we give when faced with this situation within the rules.

remembering the medium of communication, pming to solve offenses, no threats

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JC
URCNA
PA, but homesick for SC

"Who says you can't go back, been all around the world and as a matter of fact. There's only one place left I want to go, who says you can't go home" Bon Jovi

Miss Bennett... I mean LadyFlynt

Have you heard of The Peacemaker by Ken Sande? Very helpful for conflict resolution... in a Puritan vein, Burroughs's Irenicum is very good, as is <wink, wink, Chris Coldwell....> Durham's Treatise on Scandal.

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Todd K. Pedlar
member, First Congregational Church, (CCCC) Cresco, IA
http://semperubi.rtrc.net

"Many men, after a long conversion, see more of the workings of sin in their hearts than ever they did before or at their first conversion. Now, such men have not an increase of sin, but an increase of illumination and light" (Christopher Love)


Click to get: Board Rules -- Signature Requirements -- Suggestions?

My roommate is currently reading this book and has good things to say about it.

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DAVIDIVS DOCTVS VTRIVSQVE LINGVAE
Husband of Emilia
Member: First Reformed Presbyterian Church of Durham (RPCNA) - Durham, NC
Currently in the process of transferring membership to an as-yet-undecided church in Chapel Hill
Student: University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, German Literature and Classics

PMing you, sir

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JC
URCNA
PA, but homesick for SC

"Who says you can't go back, been all around the world and as a matter of fact. There's only one place left I want to go, who says you can't go home" Bon Jovi

From time to time I bump the following threads which I think are helpful in this vein:

Recent Happenings - Part Deux -- Greg Bahnsen's Moral Checkup for Your Mouth

Thomas Smyth's Twelve Rules for Promoting Harmony Among Church Members

A Quote to Keep in Mind While Discussing Here on the PB

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Andrew Myers
Husband of Jessica, Father of Jackson, Katie and Samuel
Member, Presbyterian Reformed Church of Northern Virginia
Warrenton, VA USA
Editor, The Matthew Poole Project

"Let your Morning Thoughts, and your last Evening Thoughts, be what shall become of you to all Eternity." -- Matthew Poole

(a more tongue-in-cheek-y-type answer)

Ya want conflict resolution? Smith & Wesson is the way to go! (Clint Eastwood-type voice: "Ya feel lucky, punk? Do ya?")...

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Richard T. Zuelch, M.Div
Ruling Elder, OPC (not currently serving)
Westminster Presbyterian Church, CA (OPC)
www.reiterations.wordpress.com
www.foft.wordpress.com

"If anyone cries at my funeral I'll never speak to him again!" - Stan Laurel (1890-1965)

I actually had to take a course in conflict resolution when I was newly promoted to supervisor. For the most part my preferred method was to bring both parties to my office and have them confront each other in relative safety and privacy, with my presence only "to insure a fair fight" with certain rules like dismissing hearsay, forbidding profanity and physical threats, etc. It actually worked most of the time...

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Robin Arnaud
Springs Presbyterian Church (PCA)
Dunnellon, Florida
simul iustus et peccator
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