How should one best deal with being unforgiven by another? What to do when a sin is committed, forgiveness is begged, but a sharp grudge remains against?

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Since it is incomparably the greatest dignity to be introduced into the company of angels, nay, to be made the associates of Christ, he who estimates this favor of God aright, will regard all other things as worthless. Then neither poverty, nor contempt, nor nakedness, nor famine nor thirst, will make his mind so anxious, but that he will sustain himself with this consolation. "Since the Lord has conferred on me the principal thing, it behooves me patiently to bear the loss of other things, which are inferior."--John Calvin

your hands are clean. Once you asked for forgiveness, and it is rebuffed, the person who is unforgiving becomes guilty. A la the servant that got forgiven for his debt, and went out and cast another servant in jail who owed him his debt.

Just make sure you ask God for forgiveness first and foremost.

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~Keon Garraway~ Brooklyn, NY Member of Franklin Square OPC

Love for God demonstrated by the love for our children in giving them a God centered education is the only hope for our country. by David Morrow
Pslam 71:20 [Thou], which hast shewed me great and sore troubles, shalt quicken me again, and shalt bring me up again from the depths of the earth.

Is the person a brother/sister in the Lord? This might be an issue for elders to address in their life eventually.

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Chris Rhoades -33
Good Shepherd Presbyterian Church (PCA) Nashville, TN-Under Care

Vera theologia non theoretica, sed practica est; Finis siquidem eius agere est hoc est vitam vivere deiformem. - Martin Bucer
""True theology is not theoretical, but practical. The end of it is living, that is to live a godly life."

Yes, but at this point should it not be the decision of the person sinned against to address the elders or session? If forgiveness has been sincerely asked of this person but a grudge remains, would not seeking help from the elders only fuel the fire?

I don't disagree with the advice to take it to the Church.

One thing that could be done, in lieu of or in addition to that is:
to seek comfort in the Psalms. Surely one could find a kindred spirit in there to help them be encouraged and comforted. How did the Psalmist deal with this kind of situation? He sought refuge in his Rock and Salvation.

At any rate, I think that would be a great place to start.

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Christopher Hinton
Northland, A Church Distributed;
Altamonte Springs, FL

amen.