Has any one every heard this in the Reformed camps?

"all my babies that died before or at birth are in hell, because they weren't given the chance for spiritual redemption"

I had an arminianist friend of mine come to me about this. She has a few of Reformed friends. But these other two "reformed" friends keep coming up with things that are anything, but Reformed.

another example:

"I'm a Calvinist, I believe in election and predestination, but I believe that I've been elected to hell" (this coming from someone studying their bible, training their children, etc...but still insisting that they themselves are elected to hell)


Comments? I've given here the Reformed view on the first. The second I told her that is sounds like someone is confused.

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