This was a general promise to the group not the individual, as Bert explained. They would be ale to stay in Israel if they kept the family in good shape with proper respect going to the parents. IT gave strength to the family unit and society at the core.

If it seems unfair that she died early and she was a godly, respectable and worthy of imitation, I would say 1. She is living forever now (as said earlier). 2. She "still speaks today" as a witness to keeping God's 5th command and in that sense lives, too, but 3. so that he does not get confused thinking that the spirit of the grandma is around I'd remind him that to be absent with the body is to be present wit the Lord.

Let us know how it goes. God will help you.

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Bryan Wiley
Layman
Reformed Baptist Church
Louisville, Kentucky

"Seek the Kingdom of God first."