Do you mean what they should be able to do in their free time around the house? Part of it would depend on what they were permitted to do before -- generally it works best to let a child's freedoms expand in increments -- as he show's he is responsible, give him some more latitude.

When it comes to movies, videos, TV (a mute point for us since we get 1.5 stations without cable) I have a friend who lets her kids start each week with a set amount of "tube time" that they could earn more of, or lose, depending on their contributions or behavior. I wish I had the system with my older kids and will use a variation on it when my little guys are older.

Computers are a separate issue -- even into their mid teens, they should be supervised on the computer, and even then, be a little less nosy only with a child who is showing great responsibility and maturity. Even then, they should be accounting for how they are using their time.

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JWithnell
Member Bethel OPC
Virginia