The father somehow having the 'right' to demand information that belongs between husband and wife as if he were a confessor or the one who gets to decide how much his daughter can forgive etc. has always seemed to me appalling, and to be a practical denial of many doctrines we affirm. I think the parents can encourage honesty between the two people involved on these issues without violating the trust that is supposed to exist between two people.

I think this kind of mentality where faults are picked over beforehand tends to make young people run to their families rather than dealing with things with one another directly, and I believe this is very unhelpful. I would not have spoken to my dad about my husband's faults before marriage, because I had no intention of discussing them with him afterwards: Ruben has protected me in the same way.
Personally, I think a young man ought to be protected from that kind of questioning, and ought to protect the girl from having to submit to it from his family.

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Heidi
Indianapolis, Indiana

Patience must dwell with Love, for Love and Sorrow
Have pitched their tent together here:
Love all alone will build a house tomorrow,
And sorrow not be near. -Christina Rossetti