One thing I have noticed is that there are many 'boys' who are afraid to stand up to a girls father in the line of these type questions. So to me, it's not really about getting all the questions answered, but really about HOW he answers them.

If he is a man and not still a boy, is he ready to be married, by being able to stand up to the father and not worrying about offending him, after all He will be the head of the home of this man's daughter..will he be able to protect her and his marriage from outside forces..even if that includes the parents interfering?

I have watched many marriages be intruded upon by in-laws trying to control their children and grandchild and boys who are not yet men answer or run away in order to avoid the conflicts with the potential in laws, so one must ask is he prepared to stand up against such things and not belly up under pressure in order to avoid conflict, merely because it is with a future inlaw?

I think many people today have turned it around as if to destroy a young man, but in reality, it has been intended to make sure the man is able to truly protect their marriage and his bride, and in that, no, I don't think the same applies to the girl and the young man's mother..as she is not called to be the head of the family.

edit to add:

My daughter was recently going out with a young kid, who was always trying to impress her, even when he couldn't afford it..if he wanted to take her out instead of waiting till he had the money to do so, he'd put off his responsibilities and take her out. I asked her what that tells her about him, and his taking responsibility over things? If he can't control himself in managing his finances how do you think he will be able to control himself sexually? if he can't be honest with you and say "I'd love to go out and do this, but I really can't afford it this week, would you mind if we do something else?" and see that she can respect that and not pout and pitch a fit because he truly can not afford it, then he's not the right guy for her, and if she pitches a fit, when he is being honest, then she is not the right gal for him either. It's not up to her to protect him, but for him to protect her.

It's part of the leaving and cleaving that makes a marriage, and he needs to be able to respectfully stand up for himself and her against her parents and his own from interfering.

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Bobbi Clark
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Pinewood Pres. (PCA) Middleburg

When I kept Silent, My bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. Psalm 32:3