Why couldn't the potential suitor also question the parents. A young man sure shouldn't jump into a marriage with a woman with crazy parents.

From many sites and books it appears that the suitor has to become a groveling neutered pup instead of prince chamring ready to fight for his bride. And with many weird marriages and sub-par parents, I would invite young men to also examine and question the parents.

My wife's father is an unbeliever wo did not adequately care for my wife as a child, and there is no way that I ever did or ever will allow him to dictate the terms of my relationship with his daughter. It was more like rescue than begging for her hand in marriage.

Some forms of patriarchialism allow fathers to become overbearing brutes not only to their own children but to any potential suitors as well.

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