While men (and women!!!) need to be upfront about past sins, wisdom (common sense) dictates you do this wisely. Don't turn it into an inquisitor moment (e.g., have all the family and cousins and such listen to him confess to all his moral shortcomings. In some ways, let this discussion be between the courtee and courter). You are not trying to humiliate the person.

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J. B. Atken
John Knox PCA
Layman, M.A. student at Louisiana College