Misty (Mrs. Lee) Irons wrote a great article about this several years ago. YOu may be able to find it online.

Everyone always says unrealistic expectations by the church. I have been in 4 churches of various kinds, denominations, regions, cultural settings, and sizes. None of them had any unrealistic expectations. They wanted my wife to do what she wanted to do, to love them, and be with them. NOthing unrealistic about that. And, she is fantastic at it.

As the husband of a pastor's wife, I know what my wife's greatest challenge is.

ME.

Seriously, she cannot help but bear the brunt of ministerial discouragement and challenges, because, let's face it, ministers have few friends they can unburden themselves to.

And, that, in turn jades her on the life of the church.

All else pales in comparison to that.

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Kenneth A. Pierce
Senior Minister
Trinity Presbyterian Church (PCA)
5301 Old Canton Rd.
Jackson, MS 39211
(601)977-0774
www.tpcjackson.org