It's tough. While I understand the importance of finding unity where unity can be found, I also know that this is not easy when the rubber meets the road. Being Calvinist does not mean that we have this doctrine of predestination that we put over here in one corner, while the rest of our Christian walk is in this other corner and can be easily understood and shared by everyone. Calvinism, and a right understanding of God's sovereignty in particular, affects every part of our doctrine and practice. When I'm with my Christian friends on campus, or back home, I usually don't say much on spiritual matters unless I'm asked to speak, because it's impossible for me to approach a situation without my Calvinism showing through somehow. If I talk, it usually turns into a debate because my entire worldview is so different from my semi-pelagian, broadly evangelical and/or charismatic friends' worldviews. If there's a way that I haven't found, I hope that others on this board will be able to provide that advice for both our sakes.

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Davidius
Husband of Emilia
Member: First Reformed Presbyterian Church of Durham (RPCNA) - Durham, NC
Student: University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, German Literature and Classics

This may explain the old adage about Baptists being Methodists with shoes, and Presbyterians being Baptists who can read. To round out the adage, Lutherans might qualify as Presbyterians who drink to excess, and Episcopalians as Lutherans who know when to say when. - D.G. Hart