Brother, I've been in your shoes and know how difficult it can be. (I was in two Independent Baptist churches while living on the west coast.)

First, you want to find agreement where you can: does your church truly believe that Christ is the only means of salvation and that the Bible is God's holy word? If so rejoice with them. Participate fully in what you know is right -- fellowship with your brothers, serving one another in love, and so forth. Keep yourself well fed by what is available on the Internet.

Although the pastor and one close friend knew where I stood, I chose to keep quiet about doctrine because I just couldn't figure out a way to say much without disrespecting the church's leadership. Prayer can be difficult because it will reveal what you know to be true about God. I would keep very focused on your audience (God) and trying to glorify Him and His marvelous attributes.

In the long run, I had to seriously question my staying in a place without a good reformed church, and God honored that and moved me to a terrific church and life situation.

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JWithnell
Member Bethel OPC
Virginia