We read Ezzo, back in the day, & found it helpfull. However some people that I have known read it & it seemed like they had just joined Amway! You couldn't stand to be around them, it was all they talked about.
My advice is not worry about finding the "right book", that will give you everything you need to know from a reformed perspective. It doesn't exist.
Rather find some (older) friends who have a few kids already who are (both husband & wife) godly, and seem to be doing a good job. Spend time with them & ask them questions. Observe how they deal with issues. This will be the best help to you.
Also try to avoid any couple that promote themslves as "experts" in any aspect of parenting. Count on it they never are. In my expirience they are just advocates of some "system' that they will try to "sell' you on adopting. Just find a normal older couple who love the Lord & are doing as good a job as they can.
