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Originally Posted by Simply_Nikki  Oh yeah I was wondering about that.. can a man admire the beauty of a woman's physical attractiveness without it being lustful? And likewise can a woman dress herself in an attractive way without tempting men to sin or being immodest?
Or is the presentation of outward beauty always sinful? |
Maybe it's because I'm getting older and no longer am perceived as having an agenda when I do so but I have no problem telling a man that he has a beautiful wife or telling a lady that she looks really pretty today as a sincere compliment. Now obviously that has bounds.
There are two prime issues with modesty:
1. Not desiring to be sexually alluring and distracting a person with things that might tempt.
2. Not dressing to be ostentatious.
Honestly, in the second category are women that dress up with showy outfits or hats. Either way the person is dressing to draw attention to themselves. I believe our dress should be such a thing that someone does not notice what we're wearing. OUr immediate thought isn't about the outfit or "parts" accentuated by it.
Note, I didn't mention the gender of the party here for both could be guilty of this.
That all said, a woman that is modest has a certain feminine excellence about her that, I believe, can be safely complimented in the same way you would compliment a person for any other blessing that God has bestowed upon them. In fact, my wife's loveliness is a reflection of her Godly character and I'm happy when others point that out.