Such confusion going on! Our daughter is 8 and she already understands that she may be destined for fire if she has not been so elected. She will grow up knowing to test herself against Scripture to see if she is of the faith and of the One Spirit. It is no use telling her that Jesus died for her and that all she has to do is "accept it". It's hogwash and free-willism. Jesus may not have, and what reason would I have to fill her head with a hope that she may not have? Children are not fools or weak. They will understand these concepts if you do not candy-coat the truth.