red flag that came up for me was when your friend implied that the 'word of the cross' had to do with works. The word of the cross is the work of Christ in the salvation of his people. He then refers to it as the 'way of the cross' as if it is talking about the believer's work or response. The 'word of the cross' is the gospel of Christ, not 'the way to live a good christian life.'

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Frank
member/Reformed Baptist Church, NJ
1689 BCF
Technician in NewYork
Titus 2:13
...looking for the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Christ Jesus...