I think they're trying to teach you not to dwell on them. Victor Frankl used to use something he called "paradoxical intention" which I wouldn't try on people who think they might harm their kids. In paradoxical intention, he'd have people with a dirt-phobia, for instance, get dirty on purpose.

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The man who is disposed to think of his sin as a great calamity, rather than as a heinous crime, is not likely either to reverence God or to respect His law. - John Kennedy, 1873
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